Read: Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. 1 John 3:18 (NIV)
Reflect: One of my closest friends fell off the face of the earth for a while. She surfaced after about two years announcing to all of us that she was headed to rehab for a serious meth addiction! We were all stunned that this intelligent, athletic, accomplished person had ended up like this.
Shortly after she finished rehab, I was able to have lunch with her and ask her about her downward spiral. I asked her how she finally knew she needed help. She recounted to me that it was in a jail cell, where the other inmates had tied her to the bars using her hair. Her own hair. The guards had to almost shave her head to free her. That was her rock bottom moment. Mind you, she had lost multiple jobs, been homeless, been in abusive relationships, lost her possessions, her contact with family and friends yet NONE of those things signaled to her that she had a problem. I asked her about this and she told me that through all of those things she could keep lying to herself that it wasn’t that big of a deal and that she could stop anytime she wanted. Her life was completely ruined yet she was still believing in the lies she was telling herself.
While that shows the power of addiction, it also shows the power we have over our own reality. The narrative we tell ourselves can literally shape how we see the world and our place in it. If we don’t own up to the lies that we are telling ourselves, we can never STOP a behavior in order to START something new. Sometimes we need friends to point out these loopholes and justifications. Often times we know. And we can always count on God’s truth and wisdom to point us forward.
I’m happy to report that my friend is 6 years sober, is married and has a beautiful son. We are so thankful for the full life she now leads and that she was able to get to a point to STOP believing the lies of her captivity and START on a new path towards wholeness and health.
React: Do you see how the lies you believe can impact the way you think and act? Can you identify some of the lies in your own life that maybe lead you towards unhealthy thought patterns or actions? What is one thing you can do to STOP believing those lies?
Pray: God, give us eyes to see you and your truth. Help us recognize where we lie to ourselves and how it impacts the way we live. Walk with us as we throw those lies away and want to move forward in truth. Amen