Best Way to Avoid Secrets
Read: “What sorrow awaits the world because it tempts people to sin. Temptations are inevitable, but what sorrow awaits the person who does the tempting.” Matthew 18:7 (NIV)
Reflect: When I was younger, I was very selfish and reckless with my actions. I did things for my pleasure with total disregard for how it impacted others. This resulted in me carrying a lot of secrets.
Temptation is inevitable; we all have to make a conscience decision to move away from it. It’s much harder to do that without friends to encourage us in this process. Do the people you choose to hang out with encourage you to get in trouble or help you avoid it? Do they cheer you on to do whatever you want, regardless of how it may impact others? Do they laugh and tease when you are disrespectful toward your spouse, or do they help you build a great marriage? Some people may mean well, but encourage the wrong actions and behaviors.
Have you ever noticed that giving into temptation often starts with an unmet need? For example, a husband who struggles with porn will find it much easier to overcome his temptation when he confides his secret to his wife so they can work together to make each other feel desired and appreciated. Teaming up like that not only neutralizes the allure of temptation, but creates a marriage where husband and wife feel cherished and safe.
Nobody is immune from temptation. We all struggle with the seduction of sin. But our hope is found in our God who gives us wisdom and strength when we ask and the support of godly friends and family to surround us. Let us encourage one another.
React: Do your actions cause others to be faithful or tempted even more? Do you have a community who will support and encourage you?
Pray: God, thank you for your grace when we fail. Help us to stand strong against our own temptations and to support and encourage others.