The Family Win

Read: “Make sure you don’t take things for granted and go slack in working for the common good; share what you have with others. God takes particular pleasure in acts of worship—a different kind of “sacrifice”—that take place in kitchen and workplace and on the streets.” Hebrews 13:16 (MSG)

Reflect: I was named head coach of a college basketball team at 27 years old. That is relatively young in that profession and while I had been around the game a long time, this was a new and overwhelming position. Early on after I was hired I received a phone call from the longest tenured coach in my team’s conference. He had won multiple titles and was only a few games away from setting a massive milestone accomplishment for wins and was nearing the end of his career.

After he congratulated me and made some small talk he transitioned into offering some advice. He gave me some tips about scheduling and laid out a roadmap for what I should be tackling first and even gave me a few players to check out. He told me he would be checking in with me and told me I could call him at any time if I needed a listening ear or his perspective on something.

I got off the phone and was floored! Here was this coach who was my direct competitor, who everyone wanted to beat, offering words of wisdom to the lowly new hire, 30 years his junior.

This was my first introduction to the idea of the “family win.” Even though we competed on the floor, he considered it a personal success if he could help others around him be their best. He confided in me years later that it was more gratifying for him to invest in the success of others than it was to win game after game.

I have seen this to be true in my own life. When I align my life with God’s word and seek to serve others, I know a peace and fulfillment that is longer lasting than my own individual achievements. It doesn’t make sense in this competitive, dog-eat-dog culture, but just like so many things in God’s economy, his way provides more life and impact than living my own way.

React: Who in your life can you help “win?” Is there someone who you might consider an opponent that you can reach out to?

Pray: God, help shift our perspective so we see the value in the family win. Help us see the waves we can make in eternity when we sacrifice ourselves for the success of others.